Yahrzeit does not only represent the day your loved one passed from this world to the next, rather, Kabbalah teaches that on every yahrzeit a person’s soul has the potential to reach an even higher spiritual level. The soul itself radiates the most on its yahrzeit than any other day of the year. While their light certainly affect us down here in this world, we also have the power to further elevate our loved ones in the world above. By observing the following instructions handed down to us by our holy Rabbis, you can elevate your loved one higher and higher in the next world with each Yahrzeit.
The yahrzeit is primarily observed by a spouse, parents, and children. One may observe the yahrzeit of other relatives, especially when they have left no children. According to Jewish law (halacha), there is no obligation to observe yahrzeit for a minor. A spouse who has remarried may observe the yahrzeit of a deceased spouse as long as the present spouse is unaware of the practice, therefore, no yahrzeit candle should be lit in the home.
The Yahrzeit day is a difficult one. It is a day that reminds us that our loved one passed away on this day. For children whose parents passed away, we still have a mitzvah to honor them. By observing the yahrzeit we are fulfilling the mitzvah to honor our parents. The Yahrzeit is a day when we should honestly reflect on the life of our loved one, the decisions they made, and the lessons we can draw from them. It is a day when we must also come face to face with our own mortality. Are there things in our life that we want to change? The Yahrzeit is a day to review
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