Unveiling Checklist

Checklist for the Unveiling:

1. Call your Rabbi or contact a Rabbi to perform the unveiling ceremony. See a list of Rabbis in your city here. Or, designate a friend or family member who is familiar with the unveiling process and Jewish prayer to lead the unveiling ceremony.

2. Contact the tombstone maker or funeral home to have them erect the tombstone on the date you have chosen for your unveiling. Ask them if they will place a cloth or drape over the tombstone or if you should bring one.

3. Make sure the Rabbi or the person you designated to lead the service is familiarized with your loved one. That way, the person leading it can personalize the unveiling.

4. Ask someone to say a eulogy.

5. Bring prayer books which include the following psalms or photocopy them. Note: if you make photocopies make sure no one throws them out as this would be a great desecration of G-d’s name. The photocopies if not used again, should be placed in a shaimos box where it will be buried. Almost every shul/temple in America should have a shaimos box.

6. Familiarize yourself with the Malei Rachmei prayer (link to Malei Rachmei prayer)

7. Familiarize yourself with the Mourner’s Kaddish.

Malei Rachamim Prayer: p.814 of normal Artscroll

The Malei Rachamim prayer is a memorial prayer that is often chanted at funerals, unveilings, synogogue on Shabbats before yahrzeits, at yizkor services, and at all visitations to the cemetery.

If you do not understand the Hebrew, you may recite it in English.

For an individual:

O G-d, full of mercy, Who dwells on high, grant proper rest* on the wings of the Divine Presence – in the lofty levels of the holy and pure ones**, who shine like the glow of firmament – for the soul of (name of deceased) who went on to his/her world, because without make a vow, I will contribute to charity in remembrance of his/her soul. May his/her resting place be in the Garden of Eden – therefore may the Master of mercy shelter him/her in the shelter of His wings for eternity; any may He bind his/her soul in the Bond of Life. Hashem is his heritage, any may he/she repose in peace on his/her resting place. Now let us respond: Amen.

* This alludes to the fact that even though a soul may be in heaven, it does not mean that they the soul is completely content since there are many levels of holiness in heaven just as there are many different levels of righteous people here on Earth.

**reference to the angels

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