After Death

1) Blessing “Boruch Dayan HaEmesâ€: The 1st thing to do after your loved one dies is to say the words “Boruch dayan haemes – “Blessed be the true judge.†The full bracha is said at the kria during the funeral service [1] so only say the words “Boruch dayan haemes†at this time. The blessing demonstrates our commitment to our Creator, that although this is a very difficult time for us, G-d is the true judge. The Aninus mourning period officially begins for those who are a wife, father, mother, brother, sister, son, or daughter. (YD 341). (the mourning period begins only after the burial.(YD 375:1)

2) Calling the Jewish Burial Society: The Jewish Burial Society consists of pious and righteous Jews who clean, purify, and prepare the body for burial according to Jewish law and tradition. We simply cannot overstate the importance of calling the Jewish Burial Society. It is one of the most important actions you can do for your loved one in the entire mourning process to elevate their soul. There is a Jewish Burial Society in almost every city. Click on this link to find a Jewish Burial Society in your city.

 

3) Prompt Burial: The Torah requires that the burial take place as soon as possible following death. In fact, our Torah instructs us that we should not leave the body unburied overnight. This teaches us that the body should be buried within 24-hours after death.[2] There are a few reasons why the burial can be pushed off for a brief amount of time. Pushing off the burial merely for the convenience of one of the relatives is generally not a good enough reason. It should also be noted that one should not rush to bury a parent[3] for it is normal to eulogize and cry much over parents.[4] You should absolutely consult with your local orthodox Rabbi regarding your particular situation.

Can be pushed off for several reasons: burial shrouds have to be made for example, halchic authority must determine how valid the reason


[1]Chachmas Adam 151:18

[2] Yad Avraham (YD 357:1) brings opinions that argue about whether one transgresses for part of the night.

[3]YD 357:2

[4] Shach 357:1

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